Neither of us can admit how our choices are dictated by the ability to share it with the world. We justify is as work, others seemingly just love the attention and others just reason with the term “ being ahead of the curve”.

Lemme break it out for you, the truth is , we all do this for display purposes, and then we wonder why this stuff never fulfill us internally. We post cute couple pictures, or pics of us enjoying a view.

Girls and Women suck in their tummies and put some oversized smile and pretend that what we sharing isn’t 1 of 100+ failed attempts. We all do this to show that we’re living our best life, when really our best life would be our most authentic life; our most authentic life is the life we live where there’s no one else around.

Even before the internet, we’d pose for photos with big smiles were only for the pictures. We manufactured moments, hoping to remember something that didn’t exist at the time. Living more authentically won’t always look better, but trust me it’d feel way lighter and more happier.

I’d rather BE HAPPY than LOOK HAPPY. In all this we’re all competing for attention, no finish line, only dwindling algorithms and a whole bunch of LOSS OF PRIVACY. We have constant feeling we are not enough.

It’s crazy how quickly a simple situation can get complicated when people don’t communicate. If you really love something or someone, dont wait until you risk losing it or them to appreciate. Ditch your doubts. Feed your mind. Love without limits. Pride makes everything more difficult than it has to be. You cant quit every time a mistake is made. You can’t run because you aint in control. Good love is for teachers, forgivers and builders. Its only reserved for people who are willing to put the work in. It doesn’t make you weak for admitting when you’re wrong. I accept that some things just dont work out, but it’ll never be because I didn’t try.

Love is an incredible thing and we cant even grasp it well. We all claim we have unconditional love. What is unconditional love? Unconditional love is i love you no matter what you have, think, feel, believe or do. I love you simply for being you.

A woman’s fear and insecurities will have her stopping at a green light. A man’s ego and pride will have him running through a red light. The only thing most of us are learning from this pain is EXCUSES.!

Someone once said to me, you can be the whole package and still end up at the wrong address. When this happens, the receiver will mishandle you because, they dont know what to do with you and two, they weren’t meant to have you in the first place.

Some of us could be so great for one another if we’d just “man up” and face things you get?! Someone becomes a reflection of how you treat them. If you dont like how they acting, look at how you’re treating them

Knowing a person is like music, what attracts us to them is their melody, and as we get to know who they are, we learn their lyrics.

There needs to be chemistry, that initial spark that attracts, that maintains both a sense of peace and excitement, a yearning for the unknown. And there needs to be love, genuine love, looking beyond the surface and settling into the heart. And that love needs to be reciprocal, mutual and as balanced as possible. Because if not, someone is bound to lose themselves and one, if not both people, will be hurt.

Chemistry so powerful that our bodies ache for both the romantic and the animal inside. You can’t force chemistry to exist where it doesn’t, the same way you cant deny it when it does…

Have you ever been so wildly attracted to someone you can actually feel it driving you insane. Tossing in bed without sleep. Fantasizing about you two. Maybe, I’m scared because you mean to me than any other person. You are everything i think about, everything i need, everything i want❤️

Happiness isnt about getting what you want all the time. Its about loving what you have and being grateful for it❤️

Everything will work out in the end, You dont need to know how, You just have to trust that it will, Never let a bad situation bring out the worst in you.

Be strong and choose to be positive

Till next time❤️

Lots of people ask me what’s my biggest fear? Or what scares me most. And i know they expect an answer like closed spaces, insects or heights, but how do i say this. How do i tell them that most people fall out of love for the same reason they fell in it. Absurd right?

Their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their body becomes ugly

Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that i can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

I think somewhere along the way, i gave up. I got tired of always trying to make everything btn us okay because i wanted you in my life. Then i realized that you didnt even care. Maybe i realized it too late, but it still hurts. Maybe i was hoping that we’d find a way to turn it back to what it used to be.

I have to draw the line because there comes a point where i just had enough and I’d love to give up; but i neved did because i had hope that it would change. Now, i think i have to make that decision because its not not fair to the both of us – esp. Me.

It pains me to say this, maybe because i still care, but i have to tell you goodbye.

After being with someone for a long time, its hard to imagine what it would be like without them. After we’ve familiarized ourselves with someone for so long, its hard to re adjust to the way things were before you met them. Talking to the same person everyday, its hard to get used to not having a conversation with them anymore.

After sharing so many memories with someone special, its hard to move forward with your life and act like all of it never happened. After loving someone for as long as you can remember, its hard to try to get over those feelings and act like they aren’t there.

I guess thats why its hard to leave someone after they’ve been a part of your life for so long.

One of the things that im proud of, that i ever did for my life was to hold myself accountable for the roles that i played in my heartbreak. You know– fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, then that shit’s on me. It was so easy to sit around with my girls, and be coddled, and listen to all the things i wanted to hear.”You deserve better” “It aint your fault” “You did not do anything wrong”. And maybe all those things were definitely true the first time around… but what about the second time?… the third time?… the fourth time?…

How could i deserve better if i kept going back? How could it not be my fault when he’d already shown me who he was, but i kept believing his words over his actions? How could i not have been the one doing anything wrong when i kept ending up in the same fucking dead end, heartbroken, in a face drenched in recycled tears? Come on!? Blaming the same man for doing shit over and over again wasnt getting me anywhere.

My choices had me sitting in the exact pile of shit that i deserved to sit in, and the only way out of it, was to start with holding myself accountable for my own damaging behaviour.

I still have feelings for you. Not enough to want you back but enough to make it hurt.
I dont know why i thought you was different from all these other niggas.
This is me moving on, this is me accepting the ache of missing you. Waking up every single day aware of what is missing, but accepting of the fact that it is my life now and that this is the way things are going to be. This is me understanding that is okay to miss someone who was once a staple in my life, but also that life moves on.

That one day i will hear the songs and smile, i will sleep in my sheets and they will no longer smell like you.
One day i will fall in love and look back at all this and my hands would not shake at the heaviness of all this.

This is me moving on, accepting that we wont make memories together. This is also me coming to terms with the reality of a future without you.

This is me moving on. I coming to terms with the fact that everything has an end. This is me understanding that there is nothing i can do or say to fix anything.

This is me understanding the fact that sometimes leaving is an act of love too. That sometimes, walking away from something soft and dauntingly real, that sometimes hearts dont align.

Our life is but a series of defining moments,strung together by passing time. Surrender fully to those moments, because it is not the moments that defines us, but how we choose to live it.

Too often we put the cart before the horses in our relationships; and then wonder why we’re heading backwards. Dont fall in love with the idea of love if there’s no REAL love.I know finding someone that will be true to you in a relationship is as hard as finding a teardrop in the ocean.

People put too much emphasis on toughing it out and putting up with the bull… a relationship shouldn’t be a fight. It shouldn’t be a struggle. If both partners are actually committed to one another, it’s not hard at all. Love is selfless. Love is give and take. Love is a two way street. If what you’re giving isnt being reciprocated, you’re not being loved. You’re being used. You cant make someone become something they arent ready to be. If they wont grow with you, be willing to grow without them.Is he or she bragging about you? Then why are you campaigning for them? There is a difference between being someone’s “SECRET” and keeping your love life “PRIVATE”. Understand the difference?!

Is it love or addiction? Many couples are suffering from addiction. Addicted to one another’s insecurities. Addicted to the drama. Addicted to the struggle. Make sure you are not calling an addiction, REAL love. I remember the days when people got together for love first and everything else second. Today it seems to be the opposite. Poeple are together for opportunity. It’s about the money, the connections, the access and the benefits.

The truth isn’t comfortable but if you listen to it will set you free. The truth requires change. That’s why so many poeple lie to themselves about their broken relationships and complacent lifestyles. Stop running from the truth. We are forgetting how to “communicate ” Adults are letting social media ruin their relationships. Talk to your partner and stop letting dms, likes and retweets ruin what you’re trying to build. If you have someone good in your life, dont take them for granted. Don’t focus on their small imperfections, let their flaws make them perfect. Not everyone will understand everything. If you have to keep your phone on lock, or up your ass in a relationship, you’re guilty by association. If you have to delete or hide anything on your phone, you aren’t in the right relationship. Make sure your actions match your expectations.

Compromise, communication and consistency are needed in all relationships not just romantic ones. Truth is everybody is going to hurt you, you gotta find the ones worth suffering for.

Till next time😊❣.